Imagine you're sitting down drinking a cup of coffee and you see an attractive woman. You want to talk to her, but you're not quite sure what to say.
If you are like most men, this is a normal situation.
In fact, many guys don't approach women because they are afraid of rejection. What they don't realize is that all they have to do is break the ice with a conversation starter. Here are four of them that you can use to break the ice with women in most situations.
1. One of my favorite places to meet women is at a bookstore because there are so many interesting things to talk about there. Remember, it is very important to approach a woman from a place of confidence and power. Otherwise her defense mechanisms will appear and you won't have a chance. Another thing to keep in mind is that you should approach a woman naturally without any ulterior motives. You see, women have a sixth sense and they are able to pick up negative vibes. So your best approach is to approach are from a natural position of curiosity.
A natural approach that you can use in a bookstore is to wait for an opportunity when she's about to grab a book or a magazine. And then all you have to do is to say the following "excuse me, but I couldn't help noticing that you are reaching for that particular book. Do you know what it's about?"
The reason why this is so effective is because you are approaching her naturally and asking her a very natural question. It's not contrived or disingenuous. Another reason why this is an effective conversation starter is that it demonstrates you are generally interested in what she is interested in. So the next time you're in a bookstore keep an eye out for any woman who is perusing for books and magazines.
2. Another great conversation starter is to use something from the environment. As an example, let's say your are in line, getting ready to order a cup of your favorite coffee. There happens to be an attractive woman standing in front of you. You look around, taking in the entire environment around you and you notice that the Barista who manning the counter at the moment has a large chocolate stain on his uniform. So you lean in and say to the woman in front of you, "Pssst, excuse me...but did you notice the large dark stain on that guy's shirt?"
She will reply that she had or hadn't, but either way you'll respond with "I think I'm going to tell him. If I had a large yellow mustard stain on my shirt I would hope that a stranger like yourself would tell me." And if she's receptive to talking to someone, she'll open up to you. If not, she won't and it's no big deal. The secret to success with the opposite sex is willing to take a chance and try making a connection.
3. A great conversation starter that works like clockwork is if you're in a social setting such as a house party, a wedding reception, or some other kind of social event. A great way to get the conversation started is asking a woman or a group of women what their opinion is about something. Stay away from overly controversial subjects such as religion or politics. Women typically prefer to small talk about relationships, pop culture, fashion, travel, art, and anything that has emotions that surround it. If you want some good ideas, simply watch the Oxygen channel or Oprah for awhile. Even simply asking a group of women who is naturally better at relationships, men or women, will usually get the conversation started.
4. "Hi, my name is..." is a great conversation starter because it's genuine and straight to the point. There are no pick up lines here, just one human being wanting to make a connection with another. Sometimes just saying "hello" or "what's up?" is the best way to break the ice.
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